Talk Dirty To Me with Debbie Simon

There is nothing sexier than a partner who knows how to arouse with just words. The art of dirty talk comes so easily for a few, but for most of us it takes a lot of practice, the right partner, and a good sense of humor. Starting off yelling “I want you to stick your big dick in my ass!” at your partner may not be the best way to initiate dirty talk. Particularly if the two of you have not delved into this realm before. So let’s uncover the best ways to get this party started.

The right frame of mind. – It will really help to get your head in the right place. Put on something sexy, wear your favorite perfume, think about the last time the two of you had sex and revel in the feeling. Put yourself in the mood and think about what you would like to say to your partner.



Start early and set the mood. – Sext your partner throughout the day. A simple “I’m thinking about you” or “I can’t wait to get you home and tear your clothes off” will have your partner in the mood before they even step in the door. CLICK HERE for Love Panky’s list of 20 sexy text messages to get your partner’s heart (and other body parts) throbbing.  

During the day work to set a romantic mood. Make the bed. Put on some new undies. Break out the candles and get ready. That man/woman will come screaming through the door wanting something special from you.

The voice and the words. – Lower your voice just a little bit. Speak more slowly and deliberate. Make a mental list of the words you want to use. Does your partner have a nice butt, voice, lips, chest, legs? Start out complimenting your favorite parts of their body. Everyone likes compliments and knowing that their partner notices. Focus your attention and your words on their sexiest parts.

Now the fun starts. – Remember to not take it too seriously and start slow, particularly if you haven’t engaged in dirty talk in the past. You can start with phrases like…

“I love the things you do with your tongue”
“Honey, you’re the sexiest thing I’ve ever seen!”
“I want you so bad”
“Your wish is my command”

When things get more heated…

“I want to rub my pussy all over your face”
“Spray your juice all over my tits”
“Put your big fat baby maker inside my pussy and fuck my brain out. Right now!”
“This is how a real man fucks!”

Boundaries – It is important to talk about any words your partner never wants to hear before you start. Many women have a very strong opinion about the use of the word “cunt” and there are many others. Dirty talk is never disrespect it is sex play. Please keep that in mind or you may not get what you are going for.

If you have been silent in the bedroom before, this may seem like speaking a foreign language to you. That’s ok! Talk to your partner about it beforehand. Tell them you want to expand your vocabulary and ask that they be your biggest supporter and help with the process. And if you want some support, stop in! We have the best books, videos and advice to help expand your sexual repertoire.


Enjoy the F-U-N!