Getting Lucky with Debbie Simon

St. Paddy’s Day is just around the corner, and that has us thinking about getting lucky — the fun way. Even if you’re in a relationship, you’re not always guaranteed to get some whenever you want it (nor should you; there are few things less sexy than assuming sex is a done deal without putting in a little effort). Here are a few tips to increase your chances of getting lucky, even if you’re not wearing your favorite “Kiss me, I’m Irish” T-shirt.

If you’re single:

Get out there: Sitting at home wishing you were getting some action is not, in fact, going to get you any. Call up some friends and head out for a night on the town, hit the gym and go to that class you know the hot girl you’ve been eying takes every week, go to that special event you were invited too. If you’re too introverted to take on the social scene in person, take advantage of social media — there are countless dating apps and websites that give you the opportunity to make a connection without the stress of getting turned down in person, and it gives you an opportunity to show yourself in the best light without stumbling over yourself or your shyness making you awkward.

Be confident: You don’t have to look like a supermodel to be attractive; few things are as sexy as someone who is comfortable with who they are — would Clark Gable have been quite as attractive without that knowing grin of his? Wear something that makes you feel attractive and comfortable and go out there knowing you are a sexy beast, and others will respond. Just remember, there is a difference between confidence and arrogance — nobody wants a cocky jack wagon who thinks they’re God’s gift to the bedroom. 

Flattery will get you everywhere: That old saying about attracting more flies with honey absolutely applies here. Everyone likes hearing about something that makes them attractive — compliment her on how clever/insightful that comment was, tell him he has gorgeous eyes, point out their good dance moves. Highlighting your prospective partner’s good points is sure to make them notice yours.

Ask nicely: Sometimes it can be as simple as “ask and you shall receive.” If you’re feeling a spark and are ready to take things up a notch after spending the night flirting with your target, chances are they may be feeling the same. Invite them for a sleepover.

If you’re in a relationship:

Give your partner a sultry massage: Who doesn’t like a nice massage at the end of a long day? Light a few candles, put in some soothing music, break out the oil and get to work rubbing the kinks out of your partner’s shoulders and back — and maybe a few other places. If all that skin-to-skin contact doesn’t get them in the mood for something a little more active, we don’t know what will.

Satin and lace: Sexy lingerie is always a safe bet to get pulses racing. Surprise your partner with something new — whether it’s for you or for your partner, it’s always a present for both — and sparks are sure to fly.

Work out: Hit the gym, go for a run, pop in that Insanity DVD, do a little sparring. Whatever your physical activity of choice, all that heavy breathing and slick skin can’t help but remind you of getting hot and sweaty in more fun ways and is sure to lead to a little between-the-sheets exercise.

Send some steamy love notes: Sadly, unless it’s the weekend you can’t devote all your time to seducing your partner (and even weekends usually include other commitments). But that doesn’t mean you can’t prime the pump and set things up for later. A little sexting now can get both of you in the mood and make coming together when you get home all the better.

And a little something for everyone:

Please yourself: Sometimes things just don’t work out the way you hope. These ideas can help, but there’s really nothing you can do that carries a 100-percent guarantee that you’re getting laid tonight. Good thing you can always pop into the Olde Un and find a few new toys (although really, you should be doing that anyway). Keep those batteries handy and remember that old adage: If you want the job done right, do it yourself.