Your Naughty Christmas List by Debbie Simon

Sex and the Waiting Game by Debbie Simon

We are asked a lot of interesting questions here at Olde Un…questions about products, positions, even questions about sexual health issues. But one of the most fun questions we receive is about dating…”How long should we date before we have sex?”

Are there rules for this? Let’s explore that concept. But before I go into that I have to state that if there are religious or cultural reasons then by all means, stick to those. This blog is more for the average Jane or Joe, who just wants to figure out what’s proper.

Rules are not a bad thing. And there are as many rules about sex as there are sexual positions. My only rule is trust my instincts. In terms of relationships and sex, there is no right answer. However, there are a lot of variables.

So if you have decided it’s time to take that plunge, ask yourself why. Is your partner putting on the pressure and you’re afraid to lose him/her? Is that person hotter than two bears fighting in a forest fire and you’re horny enough to jump in with them? Has it just been too long? Do you want to stay with them forever and show them how you feel? These are the kinds of questions you can ask yourself, but ultimately, it’s going to come down to trusting your instincts and deciding for yourself, not someone else, whether it’s time to GO FOR IT!

According to Patti Stanger, you should always wait until there is a joint decision on monogamy. There is a long-standing unspoken rule by many men that the third date is when that big event is going to happen. And Steve Harvey writes in his book, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, to wait at least 90 days before you give it up.

But do the experts know you? Do they know your partner? Have they had a stellar relationship life? Hmmmm, I’m going to say that rules are stupid. As long as you know that sex is an intimate, personal, emotional and powerful act, you have all the tools to make an educated decision on what’s right for you.

The theory about sex that disturbs me the most is the idea that a person can use it as a control or manipulation tool. Either holding out to push or punish your partner or giving it up and making your partner feel guilty later. One of my favorite illustrations of this idea is the song Paradise By The Dashboard Lights by Meatloaf. The struggle is real Friends. 

The most important thing is to know yourself, know your partner, talk about it first, think on it for a bit, then make your choice. And remember, there is no right or wrong decision. All we can ever do is take the information we have at any given moment and make the best decision we can. No matter if it is the first date or the twentieth, if you are with the right person it will all work out in the end. Sex will never, and should never, be the deciding factor in the success of a relationship. If things don’t work out the way you had planned, at least you’ve learned something. And hopefully had a whole lot of fun in the process!

Although we would never claim to be relationship experts here at Olde Un, we DEFINITELY are the experts when it’s time to find something fun to spice up your relationship! Come in and see us today!

The Five Best New Toys for Women in 2015

With Debbie Simon

New toys are always so exciting and this year is better than ever! From newly designed Rabbits to Super Bullets with 20 speeds! It’s going to be a great ride!
So here are our top picks for 2015…ENJOY!

1) The Sensuelle Impulse  exceeds  expectations. The  deceptively simple, sleek design starts with subtle grooves and continues on to the special hook handle. Its deeply intense motor, with multi-function modes, is designed to create powerful sensations easily with the touch of a finger. The unique touch sensor mode will automatically start upon contact with your body and will delight you with 7 different vibration functions. But it doesn’t end there. Each groove on the Sensuelle Impulse represents a different sensor region with varying intensities. Easily switch between the 7 Vibration Functions and touch Sensor Mode at the push of a button. And let’s not forget the special hook handle that allows the Sensuelle Impulse to be enjoyed externally or internally, and either as a vaginal or anal toy.

2) Get ready for the new Jack Rabbit! The Rabbit has been a favorite for years, and their new Triple Motor Silicone Jack Rabbit is the most incredibly powerful Rabbit ever built! With three motors strategically placed in the tip, shaft and rabbit, you will jump for joy when you feel the power. There are 7 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation along with three speeds of independent shaft rotation and vibrations. This Rabbit has it all!





3) Waterproof travel important in your life? You’ll love the Silhouette 17. With its flexible shaft, incredible durability and beautiful design, this vibrator has some of the best new technology on the market. Dual motors with 10 incredible functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation and intense incremental speed control. Trust us, this one aims to please.

4) Do you love a good strap-on but hate the straps? You have to try the new Love Rider. Strapless and rechargeable, this great new toy offers dual motors with 30 functions of intense vibration, pulsation and escalation. Made with high grade silicone for your comfort and safety, it’s built to last. The large probe measures an impressive 7.75 inches long by 1.5 inches around for 100 inches of fun!






5) If 7 modes won’t cut it, you’ll love the Sensuelle Point. Twice dipped in silicone, to give you an ultra-smooth, silky, sensual feel, it is beautiful to touch and as intense as anything on the market. This baby is not just a bullet, it’s a brand new breed of bullet that will redefine what a good bullet is. The Super Bullet…with 20 mind-blowing modes!  One touch and you will definitely understand the sensation!




Toys are a great way to spice up your night with your partner, keep your body health (see our previous blog post), and help you get to know your body better. Don’t be afraid to try something new! And as always, if you have questions, come by and speak to any of our knowledgeable and experienced staff.

Great News! Masturbation is Good for You!

In the past, masturbation has gotten a bum rap. The many strange myths about masturbation are as numerous as the slang terms. Blindness and Insanity...Infertility...Even that masturbation can make your sexual organs fall off or make your hands pregnant after death!  

It is amazing that anyone could believe these myths. But I have some good news! Masturbation has some great health benefits…physical, emotional, and physiological. So whether you are into ‘Paddling the Pink Canoe’, ‘Cranking the Shank’ or ‘Polishing the Pearl,’ make sure you are getting your fill of orgasms!

Enjoy Our Favorite 6 Benefits to Masturbation…

1.  Hormonal and Tension Release – Orgasms provide a great endorphin release in your body. Endorphins are key relaxation tools. Not only will you feel relaxed and happy, having orgasms will increase your pelvic floor strength through the contractions that happen during orgasm.
   
2. Improved Immune Function and Decreased Depression – The release of endorphins and oxytocin in your body can improve your overall health and make you feel lighter. A great way to lift your spirits without a prescription!
   
3. Protection from STD’s and STI’s – You can’t give yourself a sexually-transmitted disease or sexually-transmitted infection! If you are not in a relationship, this is a great way to keep your sexual juices flowing without the potential risks of a partner.
   
4.  Cervical and Urinary Tract Infection Prevention – Through a process called ‘tenting’ in women, bacteria and cervical fluids are released. Tenting also stretches the cervix and thus the cervical mucous. Releasing stored fluids is a great way to maintain the health of your vagina, cervix and uterus.
   
5. Knowing Your Body and Improving Your Sex Life with Your Partner – Understanding your
   
   body and sharing masturbation with a partner can improve your sex life and improve your physical relationship with them. Promoting a healthy, open sexual relationship with   your partner is proven to help couples make their relationships stronger and more intimate.
   
6. And Men, there is a super important benefit for you – Orgasms are key in reducing your risk of prostate cancer, most likely by giving the prostate a chance to flush out potential cancer-causing agents.

The best reason of all…IT FEELS F*%+ING AMAZING! This reason explains itself. No need to mark your calendar, the best day to start is today!