Sexual Intelligence - How's Yours?

By Debbie Simon

What is sexual intelligence? Understanding intimacy. Satisfaction. Having an open mind. The ability to create something new when you are getting a bit older, being curious about new things and keeping a level head when things get a little kinky.

Here are a few of my favorite ways to increase your sexual intelligence...

1. Get comfortable in your own skin
Do you know your body? All the sweet spots and the areas you aren’t so comfortable with? There is no reason to gauge your body against what you see in magazines or on TV. Sexual encounters are a very personal experience and EVERYONE can have mind blowing sex! Being confident with your body is half the battle.

2. Support and trust each other
Trusting and supporting each other is vital to fulfilling your partner’s needs. As you get more comfortable talking and trying new things, that trust is the most important thing. It takes a lot of guts to ask for anal sex or the addition of a bondage rope if you have never discussed it before. Never criticize or laugh in spite. Approach your partner with an open mind and kind heart and your sex life will be taken to a whole new level!

3. Be happy alone.
Relying on someone else to give you sexual satisfaction can end in disaster. There are as many examples as there are relationships. One night stands that turn into stalking. Picking up a disease you can never get rid of. Learn about your body and how to satisfy yourself. Learn to enjoy yourself because desperation is the least attractive quality in a partner. Relying on a partner for ALL your sexual satisfaction will get you in trouble every time.

4. Eat sexy foods
Ohhhhhhh, how food can add spice to a sexual encounter. Chocolate, fruit, ice cream, whipped cream, edible panties, honey, the list goes on and on…The aroma, the texture, the temperature and the taste can all add to your performance and your experience. Get your food on Babe!

5. Have a great sense of humor
Things can go wrong in the bedroom. You’re taking new risks, trying new things, sometimes it won’t be flawless. Adding some laughter to an awkward situation (as long as your partner doesn’t think you are laughing AT them) is the best way to turn an ‘OOPS’ into a great story to laugh about later. Laughter is the best medicine. Make sure you take a healthy dose every day.

Great sex doesn’t just happen. It takes practice. And this is not a bad thing! The best advice I can give is practice, practice, practice! A Golf Pro doesn’t get to the top by playing golf for fun once a month. He works at it consistently, practicing a lot of different methods for getting the ball straight to the hole. So get out there and try something new. Need some help with ideas? Stop in and see us soon!

Wow! It’s all about Men’s Orgasms! (Our favorite 6)

With Debbie Simon

It seems everyone is talking about and analyzing female orgasms and the mystery of getting one. While it is true men are usually able to reach orgasm more easily than females; male orgasms are just as interesting and complicated.

It is a surprise to some the the average amount of fluid men release during orgasm is only about a teaspoon. But that small amount of special has also been found to contain natural mood enhancers like serotonin, cortisol, prolactin, oxytocin, and estrone, as well as the sleep-aid melatonin. No wonder they can swim up to 28 miles per hour!

Not only do orgasms make men feel like they have just conquered the world, they are vitally important to their physical health. Orgasms will keep a man’s prostate healthy for years to come. So, check out these tricks to helping your man reach an explosive ending to every sexual encounter.

1.       Slow It Down Sister

Men sometimes hurry to get to the prize. Making him wait can really make his orgasm explosive. A little frustration can go a long way in the bedroom. Watching him get close to the edge and then backing off several times will have him moaning when he cums.

2.       The Touch

Touching your man seems such a simple idea and yet so few partners really focus on what they do with their hands and how it affects their man. Spend some time consciously focusing on how your touch makes your man react. Use your hands to tell him how much you enjoy his penis by grabbing his hips and pulling them toward you, run your fingers down the center of his back or take his face in your hands. Touch can make both your orgasms much more intense and build the intimacy everyone desires.

3.       The Toys

We love toys. Toys for girls. Toys for boys. Toys are one of the most fun ways to add something new to your sex life and give your man the ultimate orgasm. Cock rings, artificial pussies, dirty movies; they all can get that big reaction from your man. And ladies, don’t forget your toys. For many men, watching you play can really get a man hot. There isn’t anything sexier than a woman climaxing. If you don’t believe me, ask him.

4.       Create Your Experience

We all know that spicing things up is a great idea. There are a lot of people telling us that on a regular basis. But what does that mean? Dressing up like the Queen of England and ordering him around with your scepter? Wearing fifty pounds of leather and chains? Booking a trip to a nudist beach in South France? We don’t think it takes that much planning or cost. Do something a little different…Surprise him in the morning (or another time of day when he will least expect it)…Wear something sexy he has never seen you in before…Use your tongue in ways he would never expect (if you need some ideas, we have some great books and DVD’s with ideas). Surprise him! It may be the best ride you’ve ever had.

5.       Dirty Words Baby

Tell him what you want. Talk about how sexy he his and how 

turned on you are. If that is out of your comfort zone start small. 

Just a little ‘Do it like that baby’ or ‘Oh yeah’ can go a long way 

with a man. We all know men are visual, but they also have 

ears and love to be told what to do, how to do it, and how much 

you love it. So talk it up!

6.       Stay Alert

Seem simple? It is easy to say and sometimes not so easy to do. 

Bills get paid on time? Is it time to pick up the dry cleaning? Do 

we have enough milk? WHOA! Don’t get distracted with the 

everyday shit! Stay with him! Pay attention to every sound, movement and body reaction. Did he just take a deep breath when I touched him there? Did he just get a bit stiffer? How is he reacting to me and what can I do to make him scream? You have the power as his partner to send him right over the edge in a big way. Go for it!

The male orgasm is a fun and fascinating physical and psychological reaction to feeling good. Become his expert and you will keep him exploding for years to cum.

Feel The Fireworks!

With Debbie Simon

It’s that time of year again! Time to talk about fireworks in your sex life! Do you have them? Where do you get more? How can you keep feeling them for years to come? Here are my Top Ten ways to get those fireworks!

1)     Experiment. Do you have fantasies that you haven’t shared with your partner? Go for it. Tell them! Sometimes taking that first step makes all the difference. When you are in a trusting relationship, telling your partner your deepest desires, fantasies and wants is sexy as hell!

2)     Flirt. Show your partner that you still find them sexy. Yesterday, today and tomorrow. Flirting should never end in a relationship. It should increase!

3)     Watch Something Naughty. Movies are great way to get the big fireworks show! Men are the visual sex and they can really get turned on by watching others create their own fireworks. Whether your taste is a spicy rated R romance film or a XXX down and dirty movie, watching something naughty is a great way to make those fireworks happen in your own relationship!

4)     Eat. Indulge in the sexy foods of your choice.. Chocolate-covered strawberries. Raw oysters. How about some edible panties with chocolate sauce? Yum.

5)     Be The Beast. Becoming a beast in the bedroom can really spice things up. Tell your partner what you want and how to get it done. Have you ever been tied up? Have you ever tied someone else up? Always respectfully and with limits clearly defined,
being the beast is a real turn-on.

6)     Take Your Time. Carve out some time, some real time, to make sure you and your partner are connecting. Make the effort to concentrate on one part of his or her body for five minutes without moving on. There are lots of sexy things you can do with toes!

7)     Plan. Spontaneity is fabulous and sometimes so is making a plan. There are some great games couples can do together to create that sparkler heat every time. (Did you know sparklers can reach 2,000 degrees? Be careful with those things!)  Buy some flowers. Show your loved one that  you’re thinking about them not just in the moment, but are working hard to create magic in advance!

8)     Dress Up. Whether it’s sexy lingerie or stilettos and nothing else, dressing up can really turn up the heat! And men…don’t ignore your inner police officer or firefighter. Women love a sexy uniform and you’ll need hours to put out that flame.

 9)   Talk. Communication is one of the most over-looked
      firework starters. Talking about how you feel about your
      partner…how much you care and appreciate them…will make
      those roman candles shoot off again and again.

  10)  Take Pictures. Taking sexy pictures of each other makes
      those fireworks pop up every time. Even a personal movie can
      be a fun way to relive those fireworks moments. Always with
      the commitment of keeping them between the two of you,
      of course.

Open your mind. Explore something you may have not tried before, and above all, HAVE FUN! 

Happy Independence Day!

The Five Best New Toys for Women in 2015

With Debbie Simon

New toys are always so exciting and this year is better than ever! From newly designed Rabbits to Super Bullets with 20 speeds! It’s going to be a great ride!
So here are our top picks for 2015…ENJOY!

1) The Sensuelle Impulse  exceeds  expectations. The  deceptively simple, sleek design starts with subtle grooves and continues on to the special hook handle. Its deeply intense motor, with multi-function modes, is designed to create powerful sensations easily with the touch of a finger. The unique touch sensor mode will automatically start upon contact with your body and will delight you with 7 different vibration functions. But it doesn’t end there. Each groove on the Sensuelle Impulse represents a different sensor region with varying intensities. Easily switch between the 7 Vibration Functions and touch Sensor Mode at the push of a button. And let’s not forget the special hook handle that allows the Sensuelle Impulse to be enjoyed externally or internally, and either as a vaginal or anal toy.

2) Get ready for the new Jack Rabbit! The Rabbit has been a favorite for years, and their new Triple Motor Silicone Jack Rabbit is the most incredibly powerful Rabbit ever built! With three motors strategically placed in the tip, shaft and rabbit, you will jump for joy when you feel the power. There are 7 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation along with three speeds of independent shaft rotation and vibrations. This Rabbit has it all!





3) Waterproof travel important in your life? You’ll love the Silhouette 17. With its flexible shaft, incredible durability and beautiful design, this vibrator has some of the best new technology on the market. Dual motors with 10 incredible functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation and intense incremental speed control. Trust us, this one aims to please.

4) Do you love a good strap-on but hate the straps? You have to try the new Love Rider. Strapless and rechargeable, this great new toy offers dual motors with 30 functions of intense vibration, pulsation and escalation. Made with high grade silicone for your comfort and safety, it’s built to last. The large probe measures an impressive 7.75 inches long by 1.5 inches around for 100 inches of fun!






5) If 7 modes won’t cut it, you’ll love the Sensuelle Point. Twice dipped in silicone, to give you an ultra-smooth, silky, sensual feel, it is beautiful to touch and as intense as anything on the market. This baby is not just a bullet, it’s a brand new breed of bullet that will redefine what a good bullet is. The Super Bullet…with 20 mind-blowing modes!  One touch and you will definitely understand the sensation!




Toys are a great way to spice up your night with your partner, keep your body health (see our previous blog post), and help you get to know your body better. Don’t be afraid to try something new! And as always, if you have questions, come by and speak to any of our knowledgeable and experienced staff.

Great News! Masturbation is Good for You!

In the past, masturbation has gotten a bum rap. The many strange myths about masturbation are as numerous as the slang terms. Blindness and Insanity...Infertility...Even that masturbation can make your sexual organs fall off or make your hands pregnant after death!  

It is amazing that anyone could believe these myths. But I have some good news! Masturbation has some great health benefits…physical, emotional, and physiological. So whether you are into ‘Paddling the Pink Canoe’, ‘Cranking the Shank’ or ‘Polishing the Pearl,’ make sure you are getting your fill of orgasms!

Enjoy Our Favorite 6 Benefits to Masturbation…

1.  Hormonal and Tension Release – Orgasms provide a great endorphin release in your body. Endorphins are key relaxation tools. Not only will you feel relaxed and happy, having orgasms will increase your pelvic floor strength through the contractions that happen during orgasm.
   
2. Improved Immune Function and Decreased Depression – The release of endorphins and oxytocin in your body can improve your overall health and make you feel lighter. A great way to lift your spirits without a prescription!
   
3. Protection from STD’s and STI’s – You can’t give yourself a sexually-transmitted disease or sexually-transmitted infection! If you are not in a relationship, this is a great way to keep your sexual juices flowing without the potential risks of a partner.
   
4.  Cervical and Urinary Tract Infection Prevention – Through a process called ‘tenting’ in women, bacteria and cervical fluids are released. Tenting also stretches the cervix and thus the cervical mucous. Releasing stored fluids is a great way to maintain the health of your vagina, cervix and uterus.
   
5. Knowing Your Body and Improving Your Sex Life with Your Partner – Understanding your
   
   body and sharing masturbation with a partner can improve your sex life and improve your physical relationship with them. Promoting a healthy, open sexual relationship with   your partner is proven to help couples make their relationships stronger and more intimate.
   
6. And Men, there is a super important benefit for you – Orgasms are key in reducing your risk of prostate cancer, most likely by giving the prostate a chance to flush out potential cancer-causing agents.

The best reason of all…IT FEELS F*%+ING AMAZING! This reason explains itself. No need to mark your calendar, the best day to start is today!

Vibrators from 1 to Fabulous with Debbie Simon

Buying your first vibrator should be a fun experience, not a terrifying one. Vibrators are a great tool for getting to know your body. The muscle work-out and adrenaline release they provide benefits your health and they’re just a lot of fun!

There are about as many different vibrators as there are vaginas so finding the right one can seem overwhelming. Here are some tips to help you select the best toy for your body.

1.  Clitoral Stimulation – Many women find clitoral stimulation the best and fastest way to reach orgasm. Pocket Rockets are the best-selling vibrators in this category and are usually very economical. I recommend purchasing a multiple speed rocket so that you can find the best speed for your clit. Body Massagers, Bullet and Egg Vibrators, butterfly strap-ons, vibrating panties and so many others...you may want to experiment with several different styles to find the one that’s right for you.
2.  Love Rings or Vibrating Cock Rings – A great option for couples. Not only is the clitoral vibration a great feeling for us girls, most men love the snug sensation around their shaft and the vibrator can be removed and used on its own!
3. Vaginal Vibrators – Finding the hidden treasure that is the g-spot is best done with a curved vaginal vibrator. Jopen has some of the most beautiful and functional vibrators on the market. Knowing your own body is key in helping your partner know what you like. Once you find that spot, you’ll never look back! We also love the new line of Sensuelle Vibrators. With over 20 vibration settings, they are amazing!
4. Dual-Action Vibrators – Some women want it all. At once. These high-action vibrators have both vaginal and clitoral vibration and can really make you hit the ceiling. Again and again.  <3

Sensuelle Touch Rechargeable

Olde Un has vibrators for every appetite.

Please keep in mind these important details. Before you make your purchase, ask about the materials your vibrator is made of. Some rubbers are more pliable than others, which affects both your comfort and pleasure. ALWAYS keep your vibrator clean. A good scrubbing with soap and water will usually suffice. However, if you are more comfortable using a product specifically designed for adult products, we offer a line of toy cleaners that will keep your toy clean, healthy and will never degrade the material your treasure is made from.

We-Vibe 4 Plus

One of our favorite vibrators right now is the We-Vibe 4 Plus. Not only is it a wireless vibrator, it can sync with your partner’s (or your) cell phone. Just be careful going out on the town with your man. He may get so excited that when he stands up, everyone will know what you are up to. Just think of all the fun you can have….