Feel The Fireworks!

With Debbie Simon

It’s that time of year again! Time to talk about fireworks in your sex life! Do you have them? Where do you get more? How can you keep feeling them for years to come? Here are my Top Ten ways to get those fireworks!

1)     Experiment. Do you have fantasies that you haven’t shared with your partner? Go for it. Tell them! Sometimes taking that first step makes all the difference. When you are in a trusting relationship, telling your partner your deepest desires, fantasies and wants is sexy as hell!

2)     Flirt. Show your partner that you still find them sexy. Yesterday, today and tomorrow. Flirting should never end in a relationship. It should increase!

3)     Watch Something Naughty. Movies are great way to get the big fireworks show! Men are the visual sex and they can really get turned on by watching others create their own fireworks. Whether your taste is a spicy rated R romance film or a XXX down and dirty movie, watching something naughty is a great way to make those fireworks happen in your own relationship!

4)     Eat. Indulge in the sexy foods of your choice.. Chocolate-covered strawberries. Raw oysters. How about some edible panties with chocolate sauce? Yum.

5)     Be The Beast. Becoming a beast in the bedroom can really spice things up. Tell your partner what you want and how to get it done. Have you ever been tied up? Have you ever tied someone else up? Always respectfully and with limits clearly defined,
being the beast is a real turn-on.

6)     Take Your Time. Carve out some time, some real time, to make sure you and your partner are connecting. Make the effort to concentrate on one part of his or her body for five minutes without moving on. There are lots of sexy things you can do with toes!

7)     Plan. Spontaneity is fabulous and sometimes so is making a plan. There are some great games couples can do together to create that sparkler heat every time. (Did you know sparklers can reach 2,000 degrees? Be careful with those things!)  Buy some flowers. Show your loved one that  you’re thinking about them not just in the moment, but are working hard to create magic in advance!

8)     Dress Up. Whether it’s sexy lingerie or stilettos and nothing else, dressing up can really turn up the heat! And men…don’t ignore your inner police officer or firefighter. Women love a sexy uniform and you’ll need hours to put out that flame.

 9)   Talk. Communication is one of the most over-looked
      firework starters. Talking about how you feel about your
      partner…how much you care and appreciate them…will make
      those roman candles shoot off again and again.

  10)  Take Pictures. Taking sexy pictures of each other makes
      those fireworks pop up every time. Even a personal movie can
      be a fun way to relive those fireworks moments. Always with
      the commitment of keeping them between the two of you,
      of course.

Open your mind. Explore something you may have not tried before, and above all, HAVE FUN! 

Happy Independence Day!